Blog - Love, Lust and Materialism

I wanted to repost this awesome read I came across, "Love, Lust and Materialism" by Dr. Jumma Marri. Check it out its pretty lengthy but hey its about Love the most wonderful emotion one could feel and it really sums up a lot in a timeless subject which I think is sooo gnarley. Enjoy! - Fonz



Love, lust and materialism
Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud.
It is not rude, it is not self-seeking. It is not easily angered; it keeps no record of wrongs.

Love does not delight in evil, but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, and always perseveres. Love never fails. Bible


True love is the greatest feelings between people who want to share everything with each other, feelings, emotions, good times bad times, material possessions, dreams and aspirations, you would jump a bullet for them, all their faults are beautiful and they feel the same way you do. Love is giving, love is being patient, love is waiting, love is earning, love is wishing, love is respect, love desires, love is accepting, love is self-giving and love is everlasting that something you just show by doing it but never ever say it or show it. When you are in love feelings turn euphoric, comfortable, home, appreciating, accepting, and heavenly.


The person, you love him/her as he/she is. You don't compare with others and you feel right, content and satisfied. When you are in love the feelings in you are like you can't get that person out of your head, and sometimes no matter how much he/she gets on your nerve, you still wants to be with him/her.


True love cannot be mistaken for anything else and if you have any doubts, it is not true love. You always put your true love first no matter what, you cherish every moment you have with them, you see no weakness in them, you understand them and you just love them so much you feel like your heart will explode! You only want what they want and if they should ever want you to let them go, you will do that too because you'll suffer or endure anything in order that they can be happy, even if it means that you are not there is no egoism in love.


In true love you find the ultimate peace of mind and soul in the arms of somebody, its is caring for the other person more than caring about yourself, is when your heart beats one million times when seeing him, /her its is when you want to be born live and die in their hands, true love is when your soul is in a peace with yourself and the world, it is when you just think about the other person, want their happiness and satisfaction, love is when you see his/her smile you feel that life is smiling at you and then you forget all pains of the world.

What is truth behind love? The truth is hidden. In Greek word the truth is originated from the word 'hidden.' So love is hiding. I think if you love someone, you are not able to reveal. The feeling is so deep inside, that no one will know and you can't even express it. No one can ever define true love, we have to experience it ourselves and pass through this individually.


Lust: Lust, like love, is truly blind. This is why, especially at the beginning of a relationship, it can be hard to tell whether you're in lust or love.

While lust feels emotional. If you're considering eventually getting married, remember one thing, marriage should not be the sequel to sex. It should be the sequel to friendship. Loads of people make big mistakes when getting married because they think they're in love and that they're suppose to marry the person who excites them and has good sexual chemistry. But after those feelings subside they end up with resentment, disgust and anger for this person.


Such love is often misunderstood or misinterpreted with lust and economical interests that's why so many marriages end in divorce. People get a hormonal rush when they're around a person and think they're in love, and believe that person is "the one." Not even close. True love creeps up on you over a long period of time. It's NOT that powerful feeling of "I must have this person." Instead, it's a slow build-up. When you truly love someone you don't have to ask yourself if it's love. After having this person in your life for quite some time, one day you wake up and automatically know. It's not an emotional rush of feeling type of love, the kind that makes you breathless when you're around them or thinking about them. That's lust.


They were never really in love. Many times we are already married to that person .We feel trapped as well as unhappy. It's terrifying to wake up one day and realize you're in a relationship with someone who you can’t depend on to be by your side forever.


Money and love
I think there is a huge emphasis on material possessions in today’s society. In today’s world, people simply judge others by their looks and possessions. Mostly young girls look at your car and dress first than your personality or looks, their eyes run at size of your house or flat, its inner decorations and carpets on floor that is not love its materialism covered with fake love. This has been the case throughout the world all through time. For example, a rich man seems to always be treated with more respect than does a poor man. Even in ancient history there was an emphasis on material possessions. Back in the middle Ages, the person who owned the most land would have the most respect.


For example girls in chat express so much love to you and at the end ask do have your own house and are you rich if they find you are not, next time you will not find them online again or they change their IDs.


People want to be accepted in society. That is why much importance is put on what a person possess then looks like, how they dress, what they own, and so on… Even though I think it is wrong to judge on material possessions, it’s what usually happens.


People need to understand that not everyone has the same opportunities as another. Some people are rich, some are poor, and others are in the middle. It’s the character and values of a person, not material possessions that count. I wish our society would realize this. Unfortunately, our world will probably continue to judge others on what they have materially, rather than what they have on the inside.


The emphasis on material possessions starts when people are young. Kids who don’t wear cool clothing, or aren’t as wealthy as others, are usually sidelined. It’s the kids with the cool clothing and from wealthy families that are popular and accepted. I wish our society could see that it’s not how much a person has that counts, but the personality and values of the person that are important.


The second reason why I think there is an emphasis on material possessions is most people feel that the more material possessions they acquire, the more important they become. For example, cars are a major status symbol in our civilization. People feel that if they buy an expensive car, they will have a higher rank in society. Even teenagers these days are driving around expensive cars, which they can barely afford, just to look cool. This problem of wanting more possessions to be powerful is the main reason greed is a predicament in our world. Many people will do anything for money and power. Thus, there is an emphasis on material possessions in today’s society because people want to fit in and want to feel powerful and important.


Another reason why we put emphasis on material possessions is human nature. We have been brought up to believe that rich people are better than poor people. That isn't true at all, but we believe it since it was all that we have been taught. The media is controlled by the rich they are all the time on prime news. All over the television there are commercials about the hottest new styles or the coolest new toys. It makes it seem like everybody has to have them and everybody is going to. If you can't afford these things, or just don't want them, you are supposedly not going to be considered very modern or cool.


Although some people seem to think that having everything is great and that makes somebody perfect, it doesn't. Sometimes material possessions aren't as important as we make them out to be. What really matters is what is on the inside and what a person has to offer as a friend. We must teach our teenagers, that personality is more important than material possessions.


Love is something which no human can live without. Or at least without some kind of love (from your mother, your partner etc...) an individual is very likely to be antisocial or suicidal without love or hope of love so love is the thing that gives us hope and the will do good things and it feels worm and comfortable. Without love inside, we have only human look but not humans.

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